I have nothing to do with your family. I feel guilty for whatever has happened. Its been more than 2 years Ben has been doing this with me.Remember you smelled perfume one night in him in 2009 and then he had to take you to “district 17″ movie to patch up. thats when It had started, But I got mad when I found out he slept with maureen Danko before she left. Now he has been screwing with one another.. I never wanted to tell you anything. He was trying to harm me and threatning me so that i dont tell you anything about him. But I got hurt coz I was attached to him as well. I am leaving him to you to take care as I dont want him anymore. But please make sure he doesnt play with anyone;s emotions ever after. I hope you will forgive him , he being your husband. He got this bad habit of looking for new meat every now and then. I hope he did ask you for sorry. I wish you all the best!
I am really out of it. I am sorry and I feel bad for you! I would be in deep pain and grief if he looses his kids.

Sorry!”

WOW! What a passive aggressive fucked up bitch!!! How can what she has done so far not be doing anything to my family???

I yell at hubby with some pretty choice words. It is at this point that the kids are scared and it comes out that EQ overheard me telling her to leave us alone. I decide to show her picture to them to make sure that she cannot show up and try to take them. Yes I do believe she is really that dangerous.

I take her picture to anyone in charge of my kids for a while and confirm that absolutely no-one is to pick up my kids other than myself.

Still we have no heat and power. She contacts my friends who defriended her on FB with some very insane talk.

We end up at a hotel. She disguises her number DESPITE having a restraining order against her calls us and hangs up while we are at the hotel. As soon as she was notified she was getting a restraining order that does not permit her to call anyone we know including husbands work she contacts someone we know well that he works with. He is shocked she called him and tells him to stop calling him and call a lawyer. Now she files an ethics complaint at his work lying about things that he has done. Work decides to do a full investigation. We now do not know if he is going to loose his job.

After she figures out the restraining order is serious the calls stop for a little while.

We go to Florida to celebrate ZQs 10th birthday. We manage to play nice enough to have a good time. ZQ certainly did. The last night there he gets too drunk to be of any use and I am once again sickened by who he turns into when he is drunk.

Wednesday November 16th Husband and I are talking on the porch. I inform him if it was just the affair we would be having a different conversation but he has given me a pretty miserable couple of years and I want a divorce. He says “I think I have a problem, I am going to start AA” I look at him skeptically as we have peaked down this road before but the next day we go to a couples AA meeting and he admits to stuff he was convincing himself wasn’t happening. He makes promises to me to become the man I can be proud of being married to. For the first time in years I actually have hope that we might have a decent future.

AA stays in the picture and despite withdrawal husband quickly becomes more pleasant to be around and looks so much healthier.

Monday November 28th a month from her first horrible note, Husband comes home after being fired. I am proud of how he took it and how he behaved. Sober suits him. He is quickly becoming the man I fell in love with in the first place.

Wednesday November 30th we go to court to get a final restraining order. I go to show her that she cannot come between us. That she cannot push me around and not pay for it. That I am not afraid of her. My phone goes non-stop all morning with my friends and family sending me love. I go into the court house with my head held high, a smile on my face, looking fantastic and surrounded by love and support.

I notice a guy checking me out who then looks at the ground when he sees husband with me. I see her and she gets all frazzled and can’t look me in the eye. I spend the next few minutes waiting for lawyers smiling at her and un-nerving her.  Turns out the guy she brought with her is someone that they worked with. He can’t look husband in the eye and I take note of many things that bring me to conclude he is her next fuck-mate. Or blow job receiver.

Our lawyer was late. That un-nerved her lawyer. Her lawyer comes up asking where ours is and she can’t look husband in the eye. Not a good trait in a lawyer!

Our lawyer finally shows up and it turns out the crazy bitch whore claims that she has a voice recording of husband threatening to kill her and her kids. We demand to hear it. Now she says it’s a text. We demand to see it. She claims she deleted it because she was afraid her husband would find it. NOW we demand a trial as she needs to get the fuck out of our lives.

Turns out after husband filed a temporary restraining order against her she came back to the court to file one against him/ The judge throws her out of court finding her to be not credible. So the start of the trial involves the two lawyers in chambers listening to the recording of that case. Her lawyer now tries to get a new judge saying that this one would be bias against her client. The judge angrily reminds her that he is quite capable of being inpartial. I am now sequestered as a witness and have to spend the next 3 hours outside the court room waiting. I am afraid to go pee incase she comes out and goes into the toilet and lies about me hitting her. Turns out by this point the court police officier has smelled her crazy and comes out to guard the toilet when I go in. What a relief! Not that I am afriad of her at all, but didn’t want to have to have another court case to prove who hit who first.

After spending the day in the courthouse learning that it is very rare for a judge to grant a final restraining order in such cases I was very grateful to learn we got it. She purgered herself in court many times and still we got it!!!

So at least that part is over. If she contacts us or his future employer again we can have her thrown in jail. The best part is she was finger printed and her mugshot taken.

I spend the day thinking I deserve so much better than court room appearances and bullshit like crazy bitch whores in my life and have a really hard time dealing with husband still around.

It is now December 3rd. My Mum after all this stress and awfulness is now on her way home. I am so glad she was here but feel awful because she had such a stressful trip. I now face trying to put our lives back together and finding a way to learn to trust in the new and improved husband. He spent so long lying to me. He never looked me in the eye unless it was to try and convince me of some cover story he was telling me when I approached him about certain things that were obvious he was cheating. I know that if we get through this life will be better. I know that if it was seeing how fucked in the head and crazy some whores can be is what he needed to wake him the fuck up then I am grateful for that at least. I don’t think he will drink again, I think he saw his future for the first time and didn’t like where he was headed. I know he loves us and is willing to do whatever it takes to earn back my trust but I am just not convinced yet that I want to start over with him. I had been preparing to start over and now I have to consider that a sober husband might be willing to come along…